We have all felt the sting of disappointment when something happens that isn’t what we were expecting, right? My husband and I are on an extended trip and one of our stops was at Steve’s Marina Restaurant in Long Beach, Mississippi. We had been there 15 or so years ago and it was our first experience eating crab cakes. They were so delicious, that every other restaurant’s crab cake since then were measured against Steve’s.
Sadly, several years back the restaurant was blown away by one of the big hurricanes to hit the Gulf Shores/Biloxi area, but we learned that they rebuilt, and were anxious to stop in again for the wonderful crab cakes. We went on a beautiful Sunday afternoon (to avoid the crowds) and guess what? Crab cakes were no longer on the menu! We were crushed!
That’s an example of an expectation that really didn’t cause us much emotional trauma…in fact, our disappointment lasted only a few minutes – we were both extremely pleased with the meals we had; they were some of the best of this trip. But what about when you expect your spouse or kids to treat you a certain way, or feel led on by a prospect that you expected would become a client until they go with a competitor?
This type of expectation relies something outside of yourself happening; something that you have no control over. So, it’s best not to get worked up about it; speak your truth if need be (we told the waitress we drove all the way from Ohio to get crab cakes…our exaggeration didn’t make a difference) and then get back to focusing on what you can control – your attitude!
The other type of expectation is one that you set for yourself. Your belief in yourself and how deserving you believe you are. You can read more about that in Doug Vermeeren’s article in this edition.
Wishing you a fabulous month of soaring to success.
