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To “embrace” means to “wrap
your arms around.” But how can
you DO that when the change
is so dramatic, debilitating
or painful? I read the old
classic book,
“Who Moved My
Cheese,”
which is all about
mentally
and
emotionally
accepting change. It was very
helpful to me, and I would
highly recommend it. If you
are experiencing a permanent
change, realizing you can’t fix
it - that you can’t put things
back the way they were,
acceptance will help you to
move on. There is no point
in constantly wishing things
were different, because that
won’t MAKE them different! It
just keeps you sad and in pain.
I often WISHED my husband
had not died; but wishing didn’t
change the facts of my new life
experience. I am now a widow,
and I must face this fact and
embrace this change.
HOW TO EMBRACE CHANGE:
• Allow yourself to grieve
. This
is a natural process which
acknowledges
the
fact
you are experiencing a
devastating change in your
life - Do not suppress it - Allow
it to provide a measure of
release and healing for you.
However, make the conscious
decision not to linger there.
• Come to grips with the
facts of your new reality
.
The sooner you can accept
that, the sooner you will
be on the road to recovery.
• Seek out others who will
support you and be there
for you.
It is easy to fall into
a pattern of isolating yourself
- which is very easy to do. If
you don’t have a supportive
family or a hoard of friends
to rally around you, seek help
from support groups and
other organizations. Having
others who have experienced
something similar, or who
have an empathetic heart for
others, can be a huge help.
• Find empowering music
with lyrics and rhythm that
bring your mood up
and make you want to
move or dance. It’s very
helpful in shifting your
heart from sadness to joy.
• Do NOT allow yourself to
feel GUILTY once you start
feeling better
. Otherwise,
you may find yourself
slipping back into severe
sadness; primarily because
you feel you should not
be happy.
Reject
these
feelings and allow yourself
to overcome the sadness
and
anguish,
replacing
them with joy and peace.
HOW CAN YOU
EMBRACE CHANGE?
Here are 8 Steps to help you move forward with change.
By Leanne Cannon
SOAR TO SUCCESS
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ecember
2016
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Personal Growth Strategies