Soar to Success December 2020

Jamie encourages women to let their ideas be heard. Once they believe in their ability and know the formula that channels their confidence, the frequency with which they speak up in a meeting room full of men, or on a Zoom call, skyrockets. “You’ll feel butterflies in your stomach and your heart may be pounding, yet confidence will give you the ability to speak out those words.” It is critical for your ideas to be heard. If you allow someone else to voice it, while you are doing a mental, should I or shouldn’t I, they will get the credit for something that should have been yours. Fuel for Forward Motion A lack of confidence makes everyone question their decisions or prevent them from making one at all. In the book “Thinking in Bets,” the author Annie Duke, a professional poker player, says that every decision we make is a gamble. Every decision includes an element of risk, no one can predict the future. Jamie told us that confidence allows you to move forward, knowing you won’t ever have all the information. Staying stuck is not going to get you anywhere. The word decide comes from the root word cide, which means to kill. “When you stop wavering, and de- cide, you kill off all other options, allowing you the freedom to move forward.” The bottom line is that even if your decision or idea turns out to be flawed, steps can be taken to correct performance and move on. At the very least, you learned something and you’re no longer stuck. Jamie also talks about the danger of frivolous, over-use of “I’m sorry.” Through her experience Jamie has